therapy can look, sound, or feel many different ways, depending on the client and the context. some days we can’t stop laughing at the absurdity of life; other days (or maybe even a few minutes later) we might be exhausted together in grief. wherever we’re at, i will be following your lead on the direction we’re heading for the session, while also lovingly challenging relational patterns and dynamics once we have established a therapeutic relationship.

also like, if you need to body double in session and fold your laundry or work on that art project while we relate that’s more than okay.

many of my clients have been in therapy for several years and/or have had many therapists. each therapeutic relationship is completely different based on the therapist and client involved. what i can say is that we most likely won’t be doing worksheets, or diving deep into any behavioral therapies (CBT, DBT, etc.) many people already have a foundation in these modalities that they find useful (or really not), and are looking for something different.

i’m going to be looking at your thoughts and feelings as they arise in the room: what just happened there when you said your friend called? your words don’t seem to be matching the vibes of what you’re saying, are you sure there’s no other feelings there? also i low key love that book on the shelf behind you.

this type of relationship and rapport comes after getting to know you over time and building trust in our work together.

i’m literally in a hyperfocus right now writing this, oops. it’s hard! i love supporting clients through working with their brain, not against it.

neurodivergence can also be an emotional rollercoaster and i hope to provide a place to be in it. early or late diagnosed, i view our bodyminds through a lens of the neurodiversity paradigm as opposed to needing to medically “fix” how you’re different.

also please tell me about your special interests, because i love learning about them! my current ones are vintage tech, traveling by train, and trying to camp at every California State Park.

great question: depends! i love long term relational work, which usually lasts from several months to several years. i’ve seen teens grow up and go to college, adults switch careers, go through a break up, discover a new identity, many get gender confirmation surgery and start (or pause) HRT. i’m typically a witness to a lot of change, which takes time and effort week by week.

yes! spots are limited, but definitely reach out.

you can! my clients live all over the state of California. say hey.

i do! those who can pay my full rates do, and that allows me to see a number of clients for less or even much less. i personally believe psychotherapy in California can be outrageously expensive, but also our health insurance system doesn’t fairly compensate providers in their payouts. i try to find a balance serving my community and valuing my skills by offering services on a sliding scale and trusting my clients to update me if they are able to raise their fee to make room for new low fee clients.

it’s true, group therapy is a tough sell. vulnerability in front of multiple people as opposed to one therapist? hard pass.

the members of my groups join for lots of different reasons, but typically find a common thread around belonging. group dynamics are everywhere in life, and interpersonal process group allows members to notice their relational patterns in real time, while also doing so in the boundaried container of the group. yes, it’s vulnerable! but the emotional work accomplished and relationships built might be some of the most meaningful you’ll ever experience.

no! i mean, it’s true: most people who want to work with me are queer and/or trans, but everyone is invited.